What Can a Matriarchal Society Teach Us About Sex and Compassion? A Bonobo Perspective with Dr. Lori Gruen
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Dr. Lori Gruen, a philosopher and scholar in animal studies. Join us as to unpack what these primates can teach us about power, intimacy, and societal structures.
Understanding the Bonobo Society
Imagine a world where societal norms revolve around cooperation, connection, and shared leadership. This is the reality for bonobos, who live in matriarchal societies governed by pleasure-driven interactions and collective collaboration. These societies differ starkly from those of chimpanzees, which are led by male-dominated hierarchies entrenched in aggression and competition.
In bonobo communities, intimate interactions are not just about reproduction but serve as tools for social cohesion and conflict resolution. Dr. Gruen elaborates on how female bonobos lead with empathy and collective decision-making; a world where power dynamics transcend gender binaries.
Sexuality and Social Roles
One of the most intriguing aspects we discuss is the bonobos' approach to sexuality. Far from being limited to reproductive purposes, sexual interactions among bonobos are about pleasure and social bonding. This approach challenges traditional views on animal behavior, highlighting the fluidity and diversity in how animals engage with each other.
In bonobo groups, gender expressions are often more fluid, allowing for a broader understanding of power dynamics beyond traditional human categorizations.
Challenges Facing Bonobos and Ethical Considerations
Despite their fascinating social structures, bonobos face significant threats as an endangered species. Dr. Gruen emphasizes the importance of recognizing their precarity and working towards their protection, both in the wild and in captivity. We dive into the ethical debates surrounding captivity, discussing whether it serves the animals' interests or merely fulfills human curiosity.
Our conversation on genetic preservation raises questions about conservation efforts: Are we preserving species for their sake or ours?
Reframing Our Human Societies

One of the thought-provoking segments of our talk with Dr. Gruen is imagining a human society modeled after bonobo principles. What if we prioritized compassion, connection, and collective leadership over conflict and competition? It’s an expansive idea that pushes the boundaries of our understanding of governance and social interaction.
The choice between compassion and conflict is a daily one, and perhaps we have more to gain by aligning ourselves with bonobo values.
Show Notes
Episode 8 of the series: Sex and Animals Transcript
Dr. Lori Gruen, a philosopher and scholar in animal studies. Join us as to unpack what these primates can teach us about power, intimacy, and societal structures.
Guest: Lori Gruen is the William Griffin Professor of Philosophy and Professor of Feminist, Gender, and Sexuality Studies and Science in Society at Wesleyan University where she also coordinates Wesleyan Animal Studies. Her work lies at the intersection of ethical and political theory and practice, with a particular focus on issues that impact those often overlooked in traditional ethical investigations, e.g. women, people of color, incarcerated people, non-human animals. She is currently working to unpack carceral logics by thinking through a complex set of issues like dignity, self-respect, empathy, disposability, and hope and hopelessness.
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